I’ve stopped dating. I’m sixty-eight and I feel like I’ve aged out of the dating market. My ex and I split when I was fifty-nine, which doesn’t seem like that much of a difference age-wise, but it is. I got into Internet dating heavy duty at sixty, but I lied on dating sites and said I was fifty-five. I could pass at the time. I was also thinner. There’s nothing like divorce to help you take off weight.
About a year after separating I rediscovered my sex drive which had pretty much gone underground during my 18 years of marriage to a man I wasn’t turned on to. I became obsessed with Internet dating, spending hours on Match.com, Jdate, and Cupid.com. I was like the proverbial kid in a candy store, fantasizing about every guy I saw, wondering if he was good in bed. I got onto the Internet dating rollercoaster. There were guys I rejected, guys who rejected me, guys who wanted phone sex, a guy I had phone sex with, young guys, guys who wanted cybersex, AOL chat room late night weirdness, men who weren’t what they seemed and also two really great guys who I dated and fell in love with..
The first, Bob, was a recent separatee who told me he loved me, but didn’t want to be exclusive. I’d been dumped by my ex and couldn’t deal with the jealousy. The next one, Jamie, was in the same situation, recent separatee and didn’t want to make a commitment yet. I was also a recent separatee, but unlike guys we girls aren’t that good at screwing around. At least we older girls aren’t. Maybe the younger generation is different. It was just too soon and it didn’t work out with either of them. I lost my dating oomph after these experiences.
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