Dating can feel like a contact sport with the bruises on the inside, and it’s an activity few boomers relish. With each mismatch, the pain takes longer to heal and there’s less margin for error. Here’s how you can avoid wasting time kissing frogs and hone in on your perfect boomer partner.
As a single, divorced boomer who dated for nearly 25 years, I believed that finding the woman of my dreams was a numbers game. If I kissed enough frogs I’d eventually discover my princess. I was sure this was true, because everyone said so.
I met and married my dream woman four years ago, and there wasn’t any luck or frog-kissing involved. I asked her the right questions when we met, and she gave me all the right answers. Here’s how it works.
You’re on a first date in a cafe. You feel the chemistry. Your heartbeat quickens. Your fantasies are looping in your head like a movie trailer. Take a deep breath, look your date in the eye, and ask these questions. The answers will be a good barometer of the long-term possibilities of your relationship:
Have you ever been in individual or group therapy, attended a relationship workshop, been in a men’s or women’s group, or read any books about relationships? Relationships create problems, and anyone who has shown no prior interest in emotional awareness and growth probably won’t have the skills to help work through issues that arise.
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