David Arquette’s reputation for being a little playful and unconventional seems to have spilled over into his divorce. At least the unconventional part.
On Howard Stern’s Sirius XM talk show on October 24, 2011, David called in to talk to Howard about his participation on Dancing with the Stars. David’s estranged wife, Courteney Cox, brings their 7-year-old daughter Coco to each show, and they sit in the audience together to cheer for Daddy. Howard took David to task about having Courteney in the audience, saying, “Tell Courteney to sit home tonight” because “She’s no longer your wife…it’s not her role…Your ex-wife should not be sitting there cheering you on.”
David didn’t buy it, responding, “I love her support!” And he’s right. Courteney may not be his wife any longer, but she’s the mother of his child and they spent a third of their lives together. “We’ve shared 15 years of an amazing marriage and friendship and that relationship is still worth preserving and respecting,” David said, standing up to Howard.
Their marriage may be over, but their relationship isn’t — and it doesn’t have to be. They’re going to be co-grandparents, after all, so getting along and valuing their time together is an important part of getting divorced and being divorced. It’s not the way it’s traditionally been done — war and scorched earth has been the “typical” way to get divorced, at least for a lot of couples. But given that about half of all marriages end in divorce, isn’t it time to do things the Cox and Arquette way? “We went through a lot of stuff, and she still loves me with all of her heart and she’s there to support me…People can say whatever they want,” David told Howard.
And we’re talking about Dancing with the Stars here, not Courteney as a 3rd wheel on a first date with a new woman. A situation like Dancing with the Stars, a public place and a situation in which both Mom and child can unite to support Dad in an activity that doesn’t have anything to do with the marriage, is a perfect opportunity to show your child that although you’re not married anymore, you’re still united as parents and supportive of each other.
“It’s a lot of fun. Courteney likes it, Coco likes it. I love [seeing them in the audience],” David said. “Let Coco show up with the nanny,” Howard responded, but David disagreed. “Listen, it takes two people to end a relationship,” he said, refusing to let Howard blame Courteney alone for ending the marriage.
And David’s right. Understanding your own role in the breakdown of your marriage is an important part of healing.
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